Gladly, I think we can all say that the discussion of Mental Health is more acceptable and widely spread than say around 5+ years ago. A large part of promoting a positive mindset, whether it be for yourself or others, is surrounding yourself with good or trustworthy people who you can vent to in times of need. On the other hand, we chant ‘love yourself’ like a mantra, as sadly we have to be reminded to do so. But what about when others really can’t be there for us? – We all have our roles and responsibilities that can become a priority over our relationships without avoidance; so in some instances no one can stay by your side when you’ve fallen. For some it’s quite the opposite: we have someone to rely on, yet they aren’t as supportive as you wish they would be…This is when you need to learn to be your own hype man/hype woman.
Got a new job? – Celebrate that.
Finished your coursework? – Reward yourself.
Managed to lose or gain weight as you wanted? – Be proud.
Got out of bed when you felt depressed? – Be pleased with yourself.
Learnt a new skill? – Show it off!
I too need to praise myself more, because the reality is that for a fraction of your life, whether it be the odd day here or there or for months on end, others will be focusing on their own achievements and can’t always commend you for yours.
The absence of others doesn’t mean your achievements should go uncelebrated.
This week I’ve done my best to keep this motto in mind, being my own hype man. For the first time I had to review/advertise a skincare product via video. Usually I’m more comfortable being behind the camera without myself being visable; however I did what I used to think was weird… I kept reassuring myself with the phrase: ‘you can do this’. Unsurprisingly, I had approximately 50 outtakes in my camera roll bin, but I didn’t back out of completely the task simply due to feeling unconfident, coy and embarrassed. As small as this step may be, I’m delighted that I managed to overcome the metaphorical barrier that once used to hinder me from experiencing new things.
Remember praising yourself can result in receiving a physical reward, perhaps buying yourself a nice meal or new book to read. Alternatively it could be something as simple as going to sleep early/having a lay-in or taking an hour out of your day to catch up on you favourite TV show.
Whatever you desire, you deserve it.
You got this!